Sunday, December 19, 2010

Why I'm not perfect:

I am so far from perfect...it's funny sometimes!

I've been married like 27 times...
I have a bus load of kids...
and I am no where near the life I had imagined for myself when I was young!
ha ha ha ha

Perfection isn't real...it pretty much doesn't exist, except in how we envision things to be in our mind.
My sister once told me that my imagination is so great...nothing will live up to how great I imagined it!
ha ha ha ha ha
and if you struggle with perfection...like I do...it can be soooo frustrating!
I always worry that I didn't make the perfect decision, buy the perfect "whatever" at the lowest price...
I have realized that the most beautiful things in life are the ones with imperfections...
the most wonderful people are the ones that are far from perfect...

God new that every imperfection and imperfect thing that happens to us...can be the very thing that makes us the most beautiful.
Just like a pearl...it's the little imperfection that gets turned into something beautiful.

I remember someone unkind, commented how none of my kids looked like alike (since I've been married 75 times...ha ha ha)...and one of my friends told me, "yeah, but how boring would it be if they all looked alike!"
My life maybe far from perfect...things that have happened in my life have looked far from perfect...but each one...has turned into the most perfect, imperfect thing.
From moving from LA when I had to come home and help my parents...
cried and thought my dreams were over....
and in turn, I was being put there so I wouldn't be working like crazy, doing make-up on long days for movies or tv shows....
but instead I had nothing else to do....but have time for the opportunity to start doing Youtube...and now I receive more rewarding comments of how I've been able to add some joy and inspiration to so many hearts....this is more rewarding than working with any celebrity!
I love being imperfect:
  • I love that I have a huge bump on my lower lip where my teeth went through my lip when I crashed on a little toy called a Roller Racer!
  • I love that my body isn't perfect..and I don't care if I have cellulite...and I'm still gonna wear a bathing suit out!
  • I love that my life has been more exciting because of how "imperfect" it's been...married a million times...pregnant a thousand more times (ha ha ha)...
  • I've never had the perfect life I thought...didn't marry the first guy I fell in love with, didn't have a little home where I'd it home and take care of the baby while my handsome, kind, funny, creative, and perfect husband would come home and tell me he loved me more than anything...and that we were going to dinner and fancy restaurant!
  • I love that I have kids with all different eye colors..and they each look different!
  • My leg is now very imperfect looking after my window accident- but you know what, now my leg is unforgettable! ha ha ha
  • I love that no matter what comes at me that isn't perfect...I know God is saying...you life is like a beautiful mosaic of all different colors...and no matter what you keep adding more beauty to it, through all these different little pieces of broken-ness... a one colored perfect piece would be very boring...
  • I could keep going but this will turn from a blog to a novel! ha ha ha
If you feel like your life, relationship, family, body, career...
is imperfect....
YOU ARE WONDERFUL...
YOUR LIFE IS EXCITING AND INTERESTING this way...
LET GO OF PERFECTION!!! AND embrace the beauty of imperfectness!

This bring my heart so much comfort when I'm feeling imperfect:
"The Lord will work out his plans for my life—
      for your faithful love, O Lord, endures forever.
      Don’t abandon me, for you made me." (it's from psalms 138:8)

We don't have to worry about our life not being how we want....it's work in progress...and each thing that goes "wrong"..could be the very piece that will guide us to where we're supposed to be!
incredibly imperfect...your kandee

159 comments:

Sara J. said...

Aww this is beautiful Kandee! ♥

Frances said...

I love how you say "perfect would be boring and predictable" :)

emily said...

You're a beautiful soul Kandee! I'm happy with my imperfections as well! Happy Holidays =]

BeautyMark3d said...

Kandee, you have the most beautiful spirit and I am thankful that you are so willing to share your life stories with us! I feel blessed to "know" you (well as well as one can know a person through youtube and blogs!) Thank you for posting this and I hope it will inspire other girls, like it did for me. Perfection is fake... Even the models in magazines are airbrushed beyond recognition!

xoxo,
Kayla

Miss_Violet said...

You made me cry! I am crying right now! Thank you for sharing...
U R AMAZING!

Jessica said...

Beautifully written. I feel the same way about my own life. So, when I'm feeling specially lost, I think... Well, this is a turning point, this is when something new and wonderful will find me and my next step in life, or my next hurdle jumped will lead to what makes me... ME! <3 Thanks Kandee!

JillieCat said...

I love this post!! I was just feeling so upset because I wasn't invited to a big family event the other night (some of them are embarrassed of me because I have a child and I'm not married). This just made me feel so much better.. perfect timing lol!

Mommy886 said...

Thanks for your Inspiration!
Kisses from Germany

tambam said...

Thanks for what you said. I thought that I was the only one out there that felt this way. I am not where I thought I would be in life and I am so far from perfect, yet I am happy and ok.

Vikki-GabrielleWorld said...

aw very inspriational,

great post!

Vikki @ Vikki-Gabrielle World Blogspot

sophi-a said...

Thank you Kandee! Yes... I am at the same point, 25 years old, divorcing, lost in another country (the one of my husband) with my family far away and I can't be there for my grandmother, my sister, my father, my brother, my cousins (we all live in different countries) I just can call them... Then I met in JUly the most wonderful guy... we are together but he lives in France (I live in Spain) . everything is so frustrating.. I hate my job but I don't have money to do the career I want .. but I love the friends I have here (all of different natinalities), I am being creative and I call my boyfriend everyday, I am going to see him on Xmas (we see us once a month) and when we see each other it is a real celebration.
...
Thank you for filling in the silence of my flat :)
Have an handsome day Kandee!

Metsie said...

I don't think your blog of imperfection had come at any better time. I actually have had the worst week of my life, and reading your blog actually inspired me. I'm sure you hear it a lot, but for someone who is known very well in the world to express their issues is admirable. You don't really hear celebrities talking about their bad day, but instead about how much money they have etc. You give me hope and I really appreciate that. You are amazing and I aspire to have a beautiful soul like yours. Your children are blessed to have such an amazing mother. <3

Monique said...

Thank you Kandee. This situation in my life, focusing on being perfect has somewhat taken away everything I had. These words really meant a lot. I mean I started to shed tears as I read this. I was thinking of doing something that I would've ended it all, but you posting this helped me stop and think. So I thank you, you saved me.

Samreen said...

Very much inspiring..
Love your attitude and loved the way you think..
Be blessed always
Regards

Maria said...

Thank you Kandee. Your words remind me that, there are no such things as mistakes in our lives. Only experiences that will help us grow and learn to appreciate what we have in our lives.

Happy Hippy Cosmetics said...

I just looooove how you are NOT "cookie cutter"! It's hard to find a kindred spirit out there that rejoices in the quirky. Vive la difference! Keep up the good work!

beautylogicblog said...

You're such an inspiration to so many people. I'm far from perfect too, but I love myself. You have blessed all of us with your wonderful spirit and heart.

mayo76 said...

I love being imperfect !! because THAT is perfect. That is peace, acceptance, happiness, peace ... Perfect !

heather said...

I so love you! I've been hoping, praying and believing for a certain something for a while. Of course, all of those old junky thoughts creep up like 'Heather, you've been married 2 times, you're 40 years old, you've got 3 kids from 2 different marriages, you've got waaayy too much baggage for this'. I try to keep faith alive by saying 'it's ok, that made me who I am' but at times it's hard (as I'm sure you know). But God! Wow. He uses you to speak to not only me (and He has so many times because I admire you so!) but to all of us and it is one of the most precious things ever when that happens. So, thank you for being obedient and for pouring out your precious, imperfect heart because honey, you do make a difference and I really needed to read this today :))

Heather

gurian said...

its incredible how inspiring you can be !!! i really like what you wrote ! it helps me to see my life in different way !:D i have wonderful life and now i can really apreciate it ! wish you all the best ! for you and your cute family

Kristy said...

Kandee, You always seem to know exactly what i need to hear in my day! I just found out i have to do all the chrismas shopping by myself for 6 kids! My husbands boss is making him work some insane hours.. i will not see him until christmas day . Def. Not picture perfect of what i thought it would be. You always always bring a little bit of joy to my days! thank you so much for sharing your heart and life with us! Kristy

Rebekah Kowalenko said...

I have been watching your videos and reading your blogs for a while, but never commented. But this blog post in particular made me decide to.
I have to say first of all that it makes me so happy when high profile people such as yourself talk about God, and even give him credit for his place in their lives. I have a relationship with God that i would trade the world for. I find it very encouraging that you aren't afraid to bring Him into something that a lot of people will see and not like. Good for you :) And thank you for being such a positive and happy person! I am prone to react negatively to...most things. Not even big things, i just mean little things that aren't how i want them to be, make me withdrawn and depressed. I am hugely blessed though, and even being able to watch your videos and hear you options and views and the way you deal with things is a blessing to me for sure. You hear so many stories of people who have lives that didn't go their way and everything about them has just gone downhill, so i love how you are so content with life. Not even just content... you LOVE it! And you are able to get past disappointment and see the beautiful ways in which God works through our failures and imperfections. Again, you are such an encouragement and inspiration. Thanks, and please keep it up! Merry Christmas, I hope everything with your pregnancy goes well!

Hannah said...

Being unique, is being beatuiful. ♥

Sarah said...

i can't even describe to you right now what it feels like to read a blog from you about imperfect relationships on a day like the one im having with my relationship. I can't thank you enough for making making me realize that just because my boyfriend doesn't do this or that doesn't make my relationship a horrible one, it means that maybe my expectations are a little too high and "fairytale"-like. Once again, Kandee Johnson has really and truly helped me get through life.

xoxo sarah

just know that there's a 22 year old girl out there that appreciates you more than you'll ever know.

nappyhug said...

Knowing that you are willing to be imperfect makes you all the more perfect! Yes but you make beautiful different looking babies, ones that will grow up to be kind and loving because they have a mama like you! I cant wait to see pics of your little cupcake! I have four and afraid of a bathin g suit buttttttt I wear a two piece anyways. Kay Sera or how ever you spell it.

Venessa said...

Kandee, you're amazing! Thanks. ;)

becnya said...

When I first saw your videos, I thought you were perfect. Now I see that you are beautiful inside and out. There will always be people who are judgmental and cruel. They are quick to point out others short comings, but don't let it get you down.

Issa said...

Wow! You really are an inspiration and I'm convinced that you will change the way people look at life and that is amazing!
Most people feel the need to be perfect and will satify for no less than that. But I know that you have removed the thoughts of having to be perfect for at least one person, me. You really boost ones confidence when you post words like these!

You're an inspiration! <3

Lauri The Artist said...

You're perfectly imperfect! I read a quote online that said something like loving someone isn't finding them perfect but loving their imperfections. Love you and you're imperfections girlie! ^.^

cecilia said...

WOWWW THOSE ARE SOME BEAUTIFUL WORDS!!
XOXOXOXOO I LOVE YOU KANDEE!!!! YOU'RE AWESOME!!!!

MANY MANY BLESSES! GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!

Much Love and Respect!!!!

Emily Anne said...

AW YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL BABE!!!

The Irish Cinderella said...

Psalms:138:8: The LORD will perfect that which concerneth me: thy mercy, O LORD, endureth for ever: forsake not the works of thine own hands. (KJV)
Love this verse too! Great blog! Very encouraging!

lovelymisskiki said...

I <3 this... Your such a great person and I wish I had your personality. Every time I feel Down I'm going to blog and read this.. Such an inspiration.

Summer said...

Thank you thank you thank you for posting this!!! I think this is probably THEE most beautiful and inspiring thing I have ever read or even heard! You are so right!!! Thank you!!

MamaMimi said...

Very inspiring! I have to laugh at the "all your kids look different" comment because we are adopting from Ethiopia...so believe me...my kids will look VERY different! But that's what I LOVE!!!

InsanityZw said...

Oh my...
Kandee this is very beautiful, it's very inspiring!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!:)
I love the way you think! You're an amazing person :3
Take care ^^

xoxo

charlene-ann said...

this was beautiful! i absolutely loved it :) thank you for this

Johannah said...

YOu have such a kind heart. I love you Kandee mwahhhh :)

ShayC said...

Just cause the choices we've made have created an "imperfect" life doesn't mean we still can't have a perfect ending. I have more that one girlfriend who got her happily ever after long after she'd lived the patchwork quilt of a life. And the kind of guys that love these girls are WONDERFUL. And these girls live in a place of appreciation and gratitude that only the imperfect road to get there could so deeply understand.

Merry Christmas KandeeJ!

Andra said...

like i said on your other blog, everything works out in the end. and the most important thing besides the obvious imperfect things everyone has, is that we are peacefull and joyful in our hearts :)

BMOJORGRQAUNEZ said...

Amen, Kandee! It is so ignorant for people to hold your past against you. As if they have been picture-perfect with everything they've done. Your kids are beautiful and sod are you, never forget that!

sarita said...

hello sweet kandee -enjoyed your post very much. thank you for sharing.

Dyna said...

you're the most imperfectly perfect person i know - at least on the net lol.

Becky said...

This is so beautiful. Thanks for bringing some imperfect beauty to my day.

Anželika said...

Kandee what you doing is amazing!

Plaisir De Fleurs❀ said...

thanks for inspiring us kandee! you're perfect to all of us xo

lulu_14_ro said...

Thank you for sharing this with all of us. Sometimes I feel like the more I read your blog the better I understand you. I'm a cancer, just like you, I don't know if it is because of it but sometimes we think alike. We are soo sensitive persons, do you agree?
I hope I didn't scare you! HA HA HA
Greetings from Romania!

Tatiana said...

This is awesome Kandee.. really. Just yesterday I was feeling awful for not loving my body enough, for thinking 'perfect' was too far for me to reach.. and reading 'Perfect would be boring & predictable' just made me realize how blind I was.. I love watching your videos, and I love how you talk to the camera as if you're talking to me or to anyone else :) Thank you so much for helping me and others even though you don't owe us anything. God bless you and your beautiful family :) wishing you the best, and super-duper-happy holidaaays! From a Brazilian fan, Tati ♥

MUA said...

beautiful post ! Thank you for being imperfect ....

Caro xxx

dazzlelight91 said...

You say your body isnt perfect, but you're still able to give life to a beautiful baby! What could be more perfect? And you can still walk even after your awful accident, so it may be unforgettable (haha :)) but its still perfect in a way isnt it? :) I love your posts Kandee xx

JMartinez said...

Aww Kandee you are so wonderful!! We are all Imperfect! God made us the way we are. And knew how our Lives were going to be, before we were even born! So there for,you are where your suppose to be. He gave you those beautiful children.And allowed you to go thru things, so you can be an example. Life is not Perfect! There will Never be another PERFECT person on this Earth. Jesus is the Only perfect person there will ever be =)And I love how Imperfect you are. Never change!People will live there lives always trying to be Perfect, but FAIL. No one is or ever will be. I love how you wear your heart on your sleeve. You are a Beautiful person INSIDE and OUT. God Bless you and your Family!!
Love another Imperfect person =) Jamie

Chicky said...

Thank you for posting this Kandee, you are inspiring is so many ways!

SippY said...

So beautiful.
I will read this, everytime i'm down. Cause this is just wonderful to read.
Thank you, Kandee. <3

Bedalyz said...

I love how the number of time you've been married increases during the article, lol.

It's funny Kandee, after reading this article my first thought was: Wow, this is perfect.

++Applause to you and all of us++

Taz said...

I LOVE YOU Kandeee! Amen to being imperfect! Makes life much more interesting don it? :D

gillybeancandyjar said...

You're beautiful inside and out. Thanks for this post :)

Ava said...

oh my gosh than you so much for writing this!
I am in such a hard phase in my life, and this just brought me so much comfort.
You are amazing person, inside and out!!

Faces By Olive said...

Wonderful post. This really helped to inforce my perspective on my own life and how even though it might not be quite how i imagined it - that having it be what it is - in this moment - is exactly where it is supposed to be. I am newly inspired to quite thinking about what might/could have been and just KNOW that i am exactly where i should be. Arm fulls of loves from Canada. Happy Christmas to your colorful and fabulous family! XoXo - Sarah Jean

lenie1988 said...

I too have a fair few 'imperfections' in my life but they are perfect for me. Thankyou for once again giving all of us that follow you a something to smile about! Merry Christmas to you and your beautiful children! xx

Bridgette said...

You're right, there isn't any such thing as imperfection. I think about that a lot sometimes... I've been through a lot lately, and I spent a lot of time crying, and being depressed... And then you always have that one person in your life that sits there and asks you that same ol' question, "If you had the chance to go back and do it all over, would you?" I thought about this, and my answer is no. There's a lot in my past that sucks but I wouldn't change a thing because in the end, it made me grow. It was hell going through some things, but when I look back at all I went through I wouldn't want to go back to being that girl, that child. Everything I've been through made me who I am today, and I am not half the person I was a year ago or even yesterday. Live your life, and love every minute of it!!! Everyone is always going to have something to say about your life, but there opinion should never matter as long as YOU are happy with you, and you know the truth in your heart.

A Shine Bunny said...

Love imperfections!

Sunshine_Girl said...

Kandee - Im so glad to have gotten to know yo through your videos and blogs. Without Christ we would all be lost. And because of his sacrifice for us, we CAN be perfect someday!! <3333

Courtney Low said...

Kandee thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and letting us into your life! You are an inspiration and you are even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside (which is really saying something because you're stunning).

emily Forjan said...

Perfection is as real as unicorns. Imperfection is what makes us unique and independently gives us our very own variance of strengths and weaknesses.
Kandee, you are a beautiful and happy person. I look at the kind of attitude you have toward life and wish to take it on as my own. You are an inspiration to me. I hope one day I can rid my mind of the constant negatives that swirl around, and fill them with the confidence and positivity that you possess. Thank you for being part of the greater good in the world.

feddy3 said...

i think that even if oyur life is not as you imagined it when you were young now you love your life and your kids and even if you have married 100 men you did it because you loved them not because you're a "golddigger"!!! even if you're a "famous"person now you're still a nice woman with so much love that crosses the crountry to come into my house (i live in italy) and sometimes whemìn i don't feel so good it seems to me that you hug me and confort me!! NOBODY'S PERFECT..i'm even further than you are from perfection!!!
huge love kandee

Kelly Goff said...

Thank you for being so transparent and beautiful! I absolutely LOVE Jeremiah 29:11...no matter what I always know God has amazing plans for me AND for you! xoxo

kandee johnson said...

@ Monique...I am rejoicing as I read your comment! No matter what has gone wrong or is wrong.....we never know what is right around the corner..and things had to go a little wrong to get us where we're right! I am praying for you and for you to feel a hug I am sending you through the computer! My heart is doing cartwheels that I could in any way save you!!!! huge huge love...from another girl that has had LOTS go wrong! ha ha ha xo kandee

Tyler and Ami Stokes said...

-Perfection: the state or quality of being or becoming perfect.

-Insanity: doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.
(how can anything imperfect/human expect to achieve perfection)

*Isn't it super crazy that the #1 socially acceptable form of insanity is that of perfection!?!

aimee said...

I just wanted to say thank you for passing on your makeup artistry. Your video on dealing with under eye circles is the bomb! Be good to thyself! <3

Sweeta154 said...

You are truly an Angel sent from the Heavens Kandee. Or a messenger sent directly from God. I am a positive person and try to be in every situation, but the people around me (my family) are so negative at times it makes me sick. I get so much joy and warmth 'hearing' positive words from you. You and your family should be on Oprah's top amazing inspirational people in the world! ...I may just write to her! :-)I love that you did this blog on why you are not perfect. I got teary eyed reading it...because when you hear such negative things all the time..you try to stay positive, but sometimes it just gets to you and then you begin to believe it....After reading your blog, i feel "back on track" with everything being "Ok". Thanks so much Kandee!
-Wanda-

Jaime said...

Kandee this is beatutiful! I love the bible verse. Are you a christian?

Margara said...

Thanks Kandee!!! reading your blogs makes me feel just like i do on sundays after church. I feel re-enegized and hopeful, blessed, and very thankful!!
love you so much!!
xoxox
Margara

Kaylovee said...

There is a quote that goes,
"A beautiful thing is never perfect."
I live by this quote. It is the truest thing I have ever heard in my life, and it shows everyone on earth how beautiful they truly are regardless of any "imperfections" they may think they have. I love you Kandee, you are my inspiration :)

It's A Girl Thing said...

OMG you make a great point.. i love my imperfections also. :)

Elly said...

Hey Kandee,
You're so beautifu and so much fun that every time we come to your page or see your videos it feels like catching up with a close friend. We're not perfect, our friends are not perfect, but God knows how much fun we have together and how much value we add to eachother's lives.
Love from Melbourne- Au.

miss.ally said...
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miss.ally said...

kandee! would you come to Australia soon! you are such an inspiration :) and just so much fun!! have an awesome christmas! (my favourite time of the year yay!!) love ally

A said...

Kandee, You are a beautiful soul and you have incredible talents. Some of which, I KNOW, you are not even aware of, haaa, haaa :-) I am a deeply intuitive person and have studied and trained under some of the best teachers on this planet so I know first hand....Please remember that those are all limitations in the way that you are thinking. You truly can have anything, ANYTHING that your heart desires. That goes for all of your followers as well. Life changes as our life path can and does. NOTHING is concrete or in stone. You ARE the co-creator of your life and whatever you imagine can be. I hope this message reaches you with love and blessings as to the light being that you are Kandee.

bulagirl89 said...

I think you should write a book about your life! I'm sure you'd touch many people. I would totally buy it, and I'm sure others would too! :)

Shannonsheart said...

This is exactly what i needed to read. I've been going through so many difficult things. Thank you for posting this, and giving out the hope, and the push i needed.

Jessica said...

Perfect timing. This BLOG made my day and life. so inspiring. I am about to be a single mother and felt alone. Thank you thank you. you are an angel touching hearts everyday.

emalyce89 said...

Oh Kandee, I am so glad you posted this! My life has taken so many turns that I never thought were possible...at this point in my life, I should have just been finishing up at Harvard Law School or touring the US on my third or fourth album (haha I looooove singing!) but had I done that, I wouldn't have met ANY of the wonderful people I now call my family (at church), nor would I have come across your blog/YouTube channel. It's amazing how God has us coming down certain paths to His glory, and when we see just how it DOES work out, I can't help but say, "That's a God thing...".

As far as your imperfections go, they make you perfectly you! =]

I hope that you continue to bless us with your ever lovely graces and cheer... Have a beautiful and happy Christmas! *hugs*

KendelRenae said...

kandee i love you and all ur imperfectness you are an amazing woman no matter how much crap ppl may post or ur blog or on ur facebook i hope one day i can be just like you ur an amazing mom who loves her kids more then anything

EVE-O-LUTION said...

And this is exactly wat makes u beautiful kandee.. love u

Lara said...

I heard a joke one time that I think of often. It is:

Q. Do you know how to make God laugh?

A. Tell him your plan.


Love the blog and videos. I'm a big fan of yours -- and your mom's and sister's. :)

♫ christine said...

Kandee, you're always going to find people who have nasty/negative things to say, no matter how great you are. There are people who are completely dissatisfied with their lives, and they look to pick on others to make themselves feel better. Each child is a gift, and anyone who cannot see that clearly has issues - it doesn't matter how alike or different they are. Just keep on doing what you're doing, because you are obviously doing something right! ♥♥

MinneapolisMel said...

Kandee, this blog and the one you posted a couple days ago couldn't have come at a better time for me. Things definitely have been feeling dreary lately in my life and the lives of so many around me and when I read your posts, I felt so much better and so thankful for what I DO have: people who support me, a warm and cozy roof over my head where I feel safe, food to eat, and even though I don't always feel like it, I have the tools inside of me to help get me through the tough times. I passed these blog posts onto my mom and her comment was "Wow, just what I needed to see right now!" and she was feeling much better then too. So thank you for being so kind and wonderful and having such uplifting words because they really have helped me feel better and put me in a more positive place!

Jesie said...

Your are so right. Our imperfections make life interesting. Kandee you are such a great person and mother it radiates in all your videos. Keep up all the great work and I hope you have a great Christmas. Happy Holidays !!!!

Sole said...

Kandee sos una gran mujer y tus palabras llegaron a mi corazón.
Quiero que sepas que amo lo que hacés!
Te deseo Feliz Navidad...
Abrazos gigantes!

Kandee you're a great woman and your words touched my heart.
I want you to know that I love what you do.
I wish you Merry Christmas.
Big hugs!

Soledad from South America

PinkyLoco said...

I love you! You may not be perfect but would we all love you the same if you were? Nope...We love you more for your honesty and faults because it makes us feel like you are "real" and not someone we can't relate too!
Thank God for your imperfections!
XOXOX

Julia said...

God can turn a worm into a butterfly, coal into a diamond, sand into a pearl.... then think of all the wonderful thinks he can turn us into. Being perfect is not being flawless it's doing what your intended to do, what God created you for.... that is perfect.

PoochesForPeace said...

thanks for sharing that psalm, i love it!

Dina N said...

I've been following your blog and videos for months now and I've never yet commented. But I've decided to do so after reading your post. I cried as I read your post and wept even more when I read the comments. You don't even realize how wonderful you truly are. It never ceazes to amaze me how you've been through so much, yet outwardly remain the most sparkly vibrat cheerful smiley positive person ever!!! I am still not able to do that. When I first started following you, I thought you must have the perfect life, because of how happy you seem. When I got to know the real you, I admired you so much more. each of us has been put on this earth for a reason, and I think one of think one of your reasons is to bring beauty and comforst to people's lives. You have such a gift with kindness and with words. Reading your posts always leaves me with a warm glow. Perfection is not about life going according to plan. The closest thing to perfection is remaining strong and vibrant IN SPITE of the hardship life throws at you. You are that and so much more. In my eyes, all your imperfections make you perfect because of how you handle them xxx

airgirl2011 said...

AWWWW!!!!! that is so so so inspiring! :) i do struggle with perfection :( and its very helpful to me for you to open up and give inspiring words about it. thanks so much!

Victoria said...

Thank you. Great way to start off my monday. You're awesome.

Have you and all the followers a nice day :-)

Hadley said...

you always seem to post the most perfect blogs right when I need them. i love you Kandee. you're such an inspiration and amazing role model :)

Pamela said...

Thank you, just thank you... I needed this..

CupcakeKiller said...

Kandee you should so write a book :) A feel good beauty book, with all your worldly musings and funny stories - and a few tips to help us look un-zombie like in the mornings ;-)

Lydia said...

Kandee, I have 2 daughters from different marriages and have been married /divorced 3 times. NOT what I predicted for my life... but I earnestly believe that my trials are all very intentional in His plan for me, and have also made me a much more tolerant, understanding, forgiving, loving person than I may have been otherwise.
Those "perfect" people have very little life experiences, and someday the world may throw them a curveball and they wont know how to handle it. Girls like us... we have become most excellent at catching it and throwing it right back. And all while wearing cute shoes! Now THAT is a life skill. ;)

.:JoaNNa:. said...

love this post!! every girl has to read this ;)

Diana said...

I quoted the last part you said, its so true..you are awesome as hell, even with your 874 marriages and 9484 kids haha =p

kristin davis said...

given my surgical scars and life that i've lead,you are the perfect one,even your leg scars has more personality than mine does. xox love u kandee

Anna said...

You choose the "perfect" moment, to say the "perfects" words, hehehe.
You are lovely, thank you so much for your support.
Kisses.

nairasharjeal said...

ur an amazing person!! <3 <3....uv'e inspired sooo many ppl...luv u :]

petra said...

Thank you for that!!!! You always inspire me by reading your blog! Sending lots of kisses from Slovenia***

angel said...

' lookin' for love in all the wrong places ' humming the words to that song all of a sudden.,

been there, done that. {who hasn't!?!}

God bless your transparent heart of gold!


a.

Sheydence said...

My children look nothing alike! Yet they are from the same father.
You are amazing Kandee!
And how many of us are really without imperfection?!

Marissa said...

God bless you Kandee, for embracing your imperfections and encouraging the rest of the world to do the same. I am currently undergoing some major life changes and feel really depressed lately and your words have brought a tear to my eye and a smile to my face of happiness. You never know how one person's positive energy can touch millions of people. Have you ever heard the story of how a single smile changed the world? Your positive thoughts and encouraging words are very much appreciated. God bless you Kandee for inspiring us day by day :)

Kcia said...

This made me want to cry...I've been having really bad self esteem issues lately and I wish I knew someone so kind and understanding as you. I really wish more people were like you. I have so much respect for you.

MrsDroopy said...

I really needed to hear something like this today. I had an awful fight with my bf and its almost 7 years since my mom died and i was feeling really down about life and then i read this and it made me realize that just because life isnt perfect it doesnt mean that it isnt perfect for me ( if that makes any sence lol ) thank you Kandee! =) <3

Girl Searching Self said...

Thank you Kandee! The Lord has been bringing up a scripture to me alot lately and I think it really applies here: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose - Romans 8:28
God makes all things happen on purpose - how blessed are we that he gives us these amazing challenges along hearts that are grateful enough to appreciate the results! I hope you and your busload of kids have a blessed Christmas ;)
<3 Cathy

LiveItOut said...

Thank you Kandee!! You always help me feel better :)

emma said...

Aw Kandee this was so lovely! Just how many marriages have you really had? x

L'Amour said...

Thank you so much for writing this blog. You are a beautiful soul! Thank you for sharing your story and reminding me that I don't need to work so hard to be perfect. :)

chelsea said...

Hi Kandee,

I've never commented on your blog before but i've read it off and on. I had to comment on this blog post,though, as it really hit home for me, and by the number of comments, a lot of people.

I am 24 and sometimes I feel like I've lived a life and a half already (just like you, by the sounds of it). I get down sometimes because I don't have the 'perfect' life, career, looks, family, etc. But no one can look at my life and call it boring! lol And all of those crazy/imperfect decisons have always brought such wonderful things into my life that wouldn't have happened without that wrong choice.

Those imperfect choices always make for the best stories as well LOL

Anywho, great blog post.

pinkcows said...

perfection is simply beauty in the eye of the beholder, there are no set rules for perfection, what we think of as being imperfect may be perfect to someone else...take my boyfriend (he'd indonesian) for example, hes always been teased about his looks, hes VERY skinny and lanky, all his friends joke about him, so hes allways thought that hes unattractive, but seriously from the 1st moment i laid eyes on him..to me he is perfect, the man i dreamed of.
So you may not be perfect to some but to others you are.

all the best kandee

xx

TERCY said...

it's amazing what you do ... just imagine how many kande girls makeup artist wanted to be like you, as is my case, and beyond your gift, you have the gift to rejoice in your posts to your blog.
I am Portuguese ... I'm telling you this to get an idea of how far your word has arrived.
My dream was always to be make-up artist, but here where I live this is a profession without a future.
I met you there on youtube and since your first video I saw that I fell in love with your way of being and seeing life. I wish I had the strength to live and see that you have a little life the way you see
I always love reading your posts always give me some strength ...
If someday you come to Portugal, I live on the island of Madeira is an island in Portugal can count on me to know you love it ... you have to stay home where I guarantee you!
I have done some makeup videos for youtube but they are also in Portuguese ...
But one thing that I liked very much was to know you personally ... Kandee continues Like you are, wonderful ...
Tradução de Português para Inglês
I hope the birth of your baby brings you much happiness and that everything goes well:) is almost uauuuuu
Lots of Hugs
Tercy

BRITTANY said...

I think your awesome and i envy what you have -- keep on swimming girl

maria a.p.a. said...

kandee, Do you realize all that you inspire to us? when I see your
videos ori read your blog I feel that I am not the only
arises or think this kind of things. thank you very much for everything you do

Heidi said...

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you, Kandee! Much love

Virginia said...

Happy Monday Kandee !!

This is the perfect lecture to start this beautiful week.. !! I would say it was enlightning. We dream a lot and reality does not always keep up with our expectations. Your post is telling us... embrace what you have in your life, perfect or not, is yours and is beautiful :)

Cheers and hugs !!!
Virginia

Maggie said...

Thank-you for sharing this with everyone Kandee you have such a kind spirit and a beautiful soul. I have a deep respect for you and admire your strength and courage. Your words are very powerful because of their honesty and this is a rare quality to find in a person.

The imperfections in our lives are important because they make us human. We are all different and these imperfections help define who we are cause without them we would all be the same. For every bad thing there is something good and there are ups and downs but with each challenge we face we learn and grow and this is the beauty of imperfections.

Thank-you Kandee you are an inspiration.

Rachel J Benson said...

Thank you, Kandee.

Monicutia said...

Amazing letter !!! :) I total agree with You !!! KEEP GOING KANDEE and have a wonderful new born baby birth !!!!! :) Have a wonderful LOVE JOY AND LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Jesi said...

I returned to see under the sun that the swift do not have the race, nor the mighty ones the battle, nor do the wise also have the food, nor do the understanding ones also have the riches , nor even those having knowledge have the favor, because TIME AND UNFORESEEN OCCURRENCE befall them all.
Ecclesiastes 9:11

wer bin ich?und wann, wieviele?! said...

Kandee, you are an amazing person! I'm glad to know and read your blog!!! kisses

Amy said...

It takes a lot of courage to look back at our past and admit things could have been done better/gone better. Remember Kandee, we only get one life to live. Don't regret anything because if you had gone back to change one significant thing you had done wrong or felt bad about, you prbably wouldn't be where you are today, with a sucessful career and lots of beautiful babies and loyal friends and fans who love you! Look forward, not backward. Lots of love, Amyboo26

Maureen said...

Kandee!!!! Please you have to listen to this song...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r-3YJijA5Rw

it's so beautiful and I know you often talk about how you get lonely. I want you to know that we are all with you. You are not alone! I wish you a beautiful and blessed Christmas and if I could I'd give you a giant hug and tell you to your face that you are a beautiful soul and that God is watching you and your beautiful children.

If you can you should really watch the musical Into The Woods by Stephen Sondeheim. I think you will absolutely love it! It's about fairytales and reality and the truly important things in life. It's been one of my favorites since i was a little girl and I really believe you'll enjoy it. When you have time just kick back and put it on ( you could probably find the whole thing on youtube or rent it from a video store, try and find the original broadway one not the 2002 revival)

Celinda said...

You may not be perfect but you are wonderful. My boyfriend always tells me being imperfect is perfect for us since humans are imperfect. Idk he confuses me sometimes but I think he's pretty much saying the same thing... You have such a wonderful heart. Thank you for everything you do for your fans.

Missy Vintage said...

ahhh, what I wonderful idea to create a *love* list. We are far too quick to fire off a list of things we don't like. x

cocobenz said...

Hi Kandee,

i love you so much. i like how you said that u r imperfect as far as looks go- that would be SOOOO plastic. but as far as our walk in Christ there's good news and HOPE that we can live a VICTORIOUS life in HIM...The Bible says "Be perfect therefore as your Heavenly Father is perfect" Please read 2 Peter 1:4. The enemy, aka the devil wants to LIE to us to make us feel DEFEATED saying we can't possibly overcome the "spiritual cancer" of sin, BUT our REDEEMER came to OVERCOME for us and to SHOW US HOW!!!! He was "tempted in every way as we are, yet without sin....and he was stuck in this yucky ol flesh! See 1 John 4:3. That means we can OVERCOME through him "by His stripes we are healed. The GOSPEL (the GOOD NEWS) is that Christ came to die for our sins and to teach us how to "Go and sin NO MORE" I love you so much Kandee, I follow your blog and it has been a joy to read, you are a cheerful, wonderful girl!!!

I just wanted to share this amazingly good news that isn't preached about (I think the devil doesn't want anyone to know, cause he knows it's true!!!!!!!!!)

It's like the "secret" cure for spiritual cancer (SIN) that JESUS CHRIST came to give us, he "he came to heal them from their infirmities" Isn't JESUS BEAUTIFUL!!!!??!?!?!?!?!!?

ONCE AGAIN I LOVE YOU.

Jesus Christ is "shrinking" my "spiritual cancer tumor" as we speak, ever since this AMAZINGLY GOOD NEWS was revealed to me I'm ever more IN LOVE with my sweet Lord Jesus.

K this is getting long haha ;)

Christmas cheer, love, joy, and merry- healed heart to you,

huge huge love,

xoxoxox to you and your beautiful children.

tiff said...

Thank you for posting this! I just wanted to share something real quick. Do you know the women from Jesus's lineage?

They are Tamar, Rahab, Ruth,and Bathsheba.
Tamar - seduced her father-in-law
Rahab - prostitute
Ruth - foreigner
Bathsheba - had an adulterous affair with David

All of these women were far from perfect but look how God used them to eventually Bless the World!!!

There are so many people who Love you Kandee!!!! Please meditate on that the next time you're upset. :)

María said...

Such a wonderful person you are!You just are in the heart of many people.
Lots of love from Spain!

María

Jennifer said...

I am embarrassed to say that when I was first introduced to you on YouTube by a friend I found you rather annoying. But now I can see that I judge you too quickly. You are such a good role model for everyone. Thank you for writing this, I didn't think I needed it as much as I did.

loapio said...

I always say nobody is perfect but when I see someone who is pretty with nice car, house or kids with color eyes i get envy them... But then I realize they might have all of that and still not be happy with their life..... I need to sit back and enjoy my life... My beautiful kids MIT not have color eyes but guess what they are beautiful. I may not have a new house but at least I have a roof over my head and e car might not be a range rover but it gets me places where I need to be... THANKS KANDEE!!!!!!!

Blondie said...

Kandee you asre such an inspiration! my dad and were just talking about how Christmas will kinda suck gift wise cause my stupid mom took him for more child support, he has to go bankrupt.We're both having a tough time with Christmas this year now that my grandma and great grandma are gone and sometimes I feel awful if I say I love one parent it feels like Im betraying the other it soooooo hard and now my boyfriend is being stupid (he lives an hour away but he wont come see me the last time I saw him was in August!!! and he has gone for days without calling me before)and not to mention my frizzy hair acne covered face and being "technically" over wieght! anyway dont mean to vent but your posts the past two days have helped so much I'd just like to thank you sincerly for your insoiration and referance to God and the bibble nobody seems to care about religon any more it's reasuring to know I'm not the only one out there trying to make a religous difference. God bless!!!!

Skylar said...

I love that you are truthful with your life! You're kids have an amazing mom...and when it comes down to it life is love, love is life.

you are truth KAND DOUBL E!!!!!!

Carrie at In the Hammock Blog said...

This is a beautiful post, Kandee! thank you!

Ariel2010 said...

I know where you are coming from with this post. You are so inspiring. Thanks for making videos and blogs.

Laura said...

i don't know how to explain how perfectly timed your blog post came! I nee to hear that so much! so thank you thank you sweet wonderful kandee!

V. Lavender said...

aww i love this post :) inspires me to write about my own imperfections :)

jessa said...

Kandee..you've become one of my biggest inspirations. Reading your blog and watching your videos makes me feel like you're my big sister and a friend haha.. :)

You are one of the most perfect imperfect beautiful person/mom I know<3

Thank you for being so bubbly and great!

Monica said...

I've been having such a hard time lately that I literally couldn't sleep last night. I'm browsing through blogs because I'm having trouble sleeping again and I can't tell you how well timed this is. Your post has made me feel at peace finally.

You've given me and others here the best Christmas gift ever...hope. Thanks so much for the reminder that we are not perfect and it's okay. I'm bookmarking your post in case I ever need the reminder again.

marbely said...

Loved this so bad!!!! We all are perfect in our imperfect way and that why life is wonderful!!!
Love from Venezuela Kandee!!!! :D

Gigi said...

you know kandee, whenever i am feeling down or depressed or anything negative really, i just read your blog and that all goes away.

this one happen to come at the right time during a night of insecurities and self-loathing.

thank you for being a source of light, love and happiness in my strange little life.

and as the song goes...."imperfect is the new perfect..."

miann.marie said...

Kandee... I know you get a lot of great comments about how awesome you are but seriously, you are my role model. Your cheerful demeanor makes my days. Your videos about not letting anyone get you down and how it could always be worse help me when I'm feeling down. I inspire to be like you with your attitude and the make-up. I've wanted to be a cosmetologist since I was about 10 I'm now about to be 22 and am in the U.S. navy stationed in Italy (which i do love and it amazing) but i still don't feel like I'm doing what entirely makes me happy. Being away from home for the holidays and realizing you have to work 13 hours on all of then really puts a damper on a cheery holiday-ish mood if ya know what i mean. I guess all i want to tell you is thank you for being chipper and putting out amazing videos and blogs to make me more cheerful...
Ex's & Oh's forever.
Miann Marie

SamySmile said...

"your life is like a beautiful mosaic of all different colors...and no matter what you keep adding more beauty to it, through all these different little pieces of broken-ness... a one colored perfect piece would be very boring..."
The BEST quote, ever!
I love you, and all your do Kandee.
Never change :)

Keep Smiling,
Sam :)

Anita said...

You truly are an inspiration to so many, myself included. And life will reward that in unimaginable ways...just wait and see ^_^

hugs, Anita

BeautyNLife said...

Such a beautiful post. I agree 100%..We need to learn to love ourselves and embrace ourselves for who we are. My motto in life has always been "Imperfections are beautiful" I love this post and I love you! I wish I could meet you someday!!
<3 Kaitlyn

Isa Beltran said...

Truly touched... I shared that psalm on my page.. I tend to forget how much God loves me...he created me ...and his creations are perfect because he is perfect. I have 4 kids and with that came about 50 pds I need to lose...and well I have been putting it off. After reading this is has inspired me to fight for my health and also to feel good about myself. When I first met my husband(which he is a Godsend) he made me feel sooo sexy and he still does. But it is me and my stupid comments. I need to get off my lazy butt and do this! Thank you hun for inspiring everyone with your love and giddyness... believe me when I say this.. I always have a grin from ear to ear when I read your blogs.

Fan for life...
Isa

Sassy@Nutz4Beauty said...

Simply beautiful. I love my imperfection, too! It's what makes me, ME!

sunflowerbella said...

I love my un perfect life too jejjejej... Life bought me to Costa Rica to live form Las Vegas. But I am here tring to see what life is going to show me. Thank kandee for all our words of advice of life that is life not a perfect fairy tail like we all want it to be.

Lucy said...

aw Kandee, you're amazing! and you are such a strong, independent wonderful person, you are an inspiration!

chanelle said...

Kandee! thankyou so much for the coupon code for crown brushes! My cart added up to 32 dollars at first but when I typed in the KANDEE code it hopped down to 11! :D

Nathalie said...

I just came across your blog today and this was the first post I jumped to. I love it! It's "imperfectly perfect"! Thanks for this...I think I'll stick around :-) Nathalie

Jessica said...

Kandee, you are such a beautiful and inspirational woman. You do so much to please everyone around you. I hope that I can be one 1000th of the woman & mother you are. I love reading your blogs/statuses & watching your videos on youtube. I love your make up videos but I love your personal videos even more. You are such a silly & bubbly person! You brighten my day :). Never stop being the wonderful woman you are. I feel like you could be one of my best friends :). Thank u Kandee for all your love and inspiration!! Lots and lots of love!! <3 Jessica

Mako said...

Hi Kandee,
You may not read this as you may have your new baby now,plus the thousands of messages and emails you may have but, I just wanted to tell you how precious are you words.
In this moment I should be so happy that I have everything to be happy, everything that the rest thinks. I have a degree, a master and now finishing my PhD with pretty very good results with a scientific publication that can make my career. But you know what? I am not happy because I don't really think I like this... research/scientific life. I had a very hard life when child and had to study non-stop to get all scolarships to do ALL my studies. I have always searched for happiness, and I still searching.

It is funny because I love make up, since I was around 6 years old, and I have been always learning that... and I had to find your blog and youtube channel to start thinking again.
Thank you so much for all your inexhaustible words for fighting for our happiness. I find yoursef very like because I do think your life is perfect. You do what you love most in life, you have kids! (i would love to, but I haven't because my studies), you have your mom and sister close, and you even manage to get photoshoots, meet people, have great cloth and be pretty!!! I admire you.

All the best to you and your family and babies.
Lot of success and happiness!
Macarena

CiGi said...

Every time I read one of your posts I want to hug you and thank you for being so thoughtful and kind hearted. You are a special soul, Kandee. xo

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