Thursday, May 20, 2010

how to be happy...

(this was what it looked like in my doctors office this morning, my leg got poked, measured, twisted, turned, poked some more, butterfly tape removed, and i get to see more doctors tomorrow and then on friday too!)

How To Be Happy
People with unkind, hurt hearts, hurt people. People with happy hearts, make others happy. This does not mean if you are hurting, that you will hurt people, it just means that those that say hurtful things, usually don't have a healthy, happy, or kind heart to start with.
I'm sure some unkind people have spilled their toxic juices on you....AKA their anger, hurt sadness, built up mean emotions. Maybe it's a friend, family member, co-worker, or even a stranger, but the world is filled with people that have "sick and damaged" hearts and minds, and all they know is how to spit out more of what's inside them.
What's inside a can of soda is what comes out when you shake it up....Soda on the inside equals soda on the outside! Same thing with people, whatever is on the inside comes out...if they are miserable and mean, all those same things will come out of their mouths...hurtful words and actions!
Let your hearts be joyful! CHOOSE to be happy! CHOOSE to be kind! Choose to only let words that enourage, words that will encourage someone, lift someone's spirits, come out of your mouth.
Life is filled with so many sad things, from news stories, to events that happen in our own lives, that our words can speak "life" other people's hearts, if we choose. 
Today,  let's let everyone that comes across our path, leave happier for having spoke to us! 
And is someone is hurting you..remember that they are operating from a sick and damaged heart. They are so filled with awful feelings, that their minds think in sad and rude ways, and they think, and accuse others of thinking the same sick way. Don't let the mean people in the world infect you with their toxic virus. They re like an overflowing bathtub, all they have to spill out is more hurtful words.

WE can be the sunshine in someone's world today! We can make someone's day with our words. With our mouths, we have the ability to speak goodness into their day and life into their hearts. Choose what you say wisely, let only good things come out. And let your little ears be careful, to only hear what is good. If it's it's not, move it to the trash can of your mind, and clear it out! You are too precious to let someone fill you up with hurt.



How to be happy day 1:


1. say kind an encouraging things to people all day~ point out something they do great, like, "you make me smile when i see you!", "you did such an awesome job on.....(fill in the blanks), "you look so nice today, I really like your.....(fill in the blanks)

2. decide to be happy and joyful today~ whenever an unhappy thought comes along, tell yourself, "NOPE! we are not gonna think about you!"...and immediately think about something happy and positive.


3. think about good things...happy things, positive things~ if any other thoughts come into your head, get em out...there's only room for happy thoughts!

We are only hurt, by letting those things hurt us. If someone breaks our hearts, crushes our spirit, it's because in our minds we've put them in a place to hurt us. We can also put them in a place where we won't be hurt by them. God can put your broken heart back together again, better than new, with more joy and happiness.

huge love and lots of hugs, your lovin' kandee
and remember if no one else told you today....
I think you're amazing, talented, and simply wonderful, and no one deserves to take your happiness!
you're more sparkling that all the glitter on the earth!
hugs the size of..well, something really big!!!



46 comments:

brokemakeupjunkie said...

You're an amazing person, and every single word you post makes me feel better and better about everything in my life... so thankyou Kandee! God bless you.
♥♥♥

ally said...

I love your post! Is what I need right now! Thank you, Kandee! You are amazing!

lauraga said...

Kandee you're a amanzing person...when i wake up and i saw what you post...you know..you bring a smile in my face:)thanks Kandee for make me feel better and to make my day most happier that was yesterday....hugsss...pupici ...pupici

Jodz said...

What you said is so true. Thank you for reminding me today what I sometimes forget.

Noelle said...

Thank you for all the love, Kandee! Sometimes joy really is a choice, but if you try and find things to be joyful about, they're always there! I liked the section about good things, about not letting bad thoughts get into your mind ... I have the little acronym f.e.a.r. written on a post-it over my computer, with "don't let them get inside of your head" next to it ... it helps remind me to be bold and trust God instead of worrying and being terrified!
So, all that to say, thank you for yet another sweet and encouraging post! God bless...
xoxo,
kandee fam lil sis

Eve said...

Hi Kandee. You are our sunshine - spreading happiness to the world, even to Prague.:)I admire you; you´re such a inspiration to me. Life is worth living - your blog is worth reading. Get well and have a btf day!

Alessandra said...

Thank you, Kandee for your precious words that are exactly what I needed today.. like a balm for my soul.
People (including me) often forget that they can actually choose how they want to feel about things that happen in their lives.. That is why we need someone like you Kandee, who reminds us of that. Someone who is inspiring, positive and with an amazingly beautiful heart.. like a little guardian angel who is taking care of our hearts.
Alessandra

monavampire said...

you're such an encouraging 'mama' and 'sister' and 'bff' in the same time.Thanks for that!

me :) said...

Thanks for this! I have a very toxic family member who has been trying to put me down for as long as I can remember. I know why she does it and try my best to not let her words get to me.
xx

Irish3 said...

Just what I needed to start this beautiful day!! Thanks Kandee, feel better with your poor hurting leg! Our weimaraner puppy is hopping around on 3 legs today I don't know what he did to himself while outside.. but we've been calling him tippy and eileen .. lol He has a great sense of humor.
Take care!! Keep smiling with your grounded self!

MommyLovesStilettos said...

You are so uplifting! :) Thank you for posting this :)

Amy said...

Thank you for this post! Really made my outlook on today much brighter =)

Heather said...

I thank God for you everyday, Kandee Johnson!! you RoCk!

Heather said...

I thank God for you everyday, Kandee Johnson!! you RoCk!

Wendy Peralta said...

We make decision everyday! We can CHOOSE to be happy in any circumstance. It might me tough but we can sooo do it!

http://live-love-makeup.blogspot.com/

Fleur said...

Haha! I <3 you, Kandee, you know that!
When I was little I heard somewhere that some Asian wise man once said that happiness is a state of mind. That stuck with me and ever since I think of it when I'm sad... and I'm sad no more. And there's that experiment when people watch the same movie with or without a pencil in their mouth and with the pencil they find it much funnier. So all it takes to see life happier is a SMILE! ;)

Chincha said...

Kandee, you give me so much strength! Six months ago I was cheated on by my long time boyfriend who I thought I was going to marry, we just moved in together last fall.. And then he did the most hurtful thing I've ever been through... In your words,I always found strength, enpowerment, joy and love. And after all that I found a very very special person, who thinks that I am the best girl in the world and understands me more than anyone else does. Thru your words, I learned that I deserved to be happy, to feel special and to give all my love to someone who really deserves it and appreciates it. Some days I feel sad because my heart is still healing,but when I see him, it makes my heart sing with joy. I forget that all of that bad stuff happened and I am happily moving on. (By the way, he is a 'tough' and manly kind of guy, but insists on watching your makeup videos with me, because he says that he loves your energy and the fact that you smile all the time-the things which remind him of me too :)
Thank you Kandee!***

bella said...

thanks kandee! i needed that.

halfback7 said...

Thank you Kandee. I read your blog everyday. It really can trun my day around if i'm having a bad one or it can encourage me to keep on having a great day. Thanks so much Kandee! We love you!!!

GlamMin said...

Thanks for the sunshine today!

GlamMin said...

Thanks for the sunshine today!

FOREVER AMBER said...

SO true! I LOVE this entry Kandee! <3

Saumaria said...

One of the greatest discoveries is that a human being can alter his/her life by altering his/her attitude of the mind. This was in my fortune cookie. :)

coco said...

Thanks for reminding me that kindness starts right here. Sometimes I complain or blame others for how I'm feeling and give their words to much power. I can't control the mean words others have to say, just how I process and take them in. Thank you for reminding me that it really isn't my business what others think of me. I'm trying to be more positive and loving in my thoughts and actions.

GlamMin said...

Thanks for the sunshine Kandee!

Angel Ramirez said...

Thank you Kandee!
Your words are alway appropriate and they make my day!

I wish you the best and I send you a big hug and love

<3 <3

Angel Ramirez

FaithHopeLove said...

Kandee - love this - you will be writing a book someday and when I go to your book signing, im going to tell you in person how wonderful I think you are and happy that I met you in person - you have a beautiful gift that you share with the world. I am reading a book on dreams now and also a book on meditation. I just read this yesterday as a mantra to say to yourself whenever you feel a negative thought or a thought that does no good for yourself, it is also a mantra to use in meditation. I want to share with you too maybe it wil come in handy for you or some one in a time of need -
May I be Happy
May I be Healthy
May I be Peaceful
May I live with ease

It works to wish this on others too that you want to, I wish this for you.
God bless,
Hugs, Love, Your freind, Stephanie

Amaris in Wonderland said...

This post was just what the Dr. ordered. I've been in the crosshairs of an ongoing ordeal [for the past month, or so] - and you just helped me to put into perspective. Thanks! :)

I'll be book marking this one, for the upcoming week. :)

Hope you heal up very soon!!

lilbunny4321 said...

oh wow Kandee you know exactly when to say the right words. My sister in law today was making me feel really low. I 'm gonna keep this in mind! Thank you so much Kandee!! :D

Sandy said...

aww Kandee, thanks so much for your kind and inspiring words... love ya!!!

Jewel of Eden said...

But what if the one that makes you feel bad, is your mom? It's really hard to live with that.

maryhj said...

Thank you for being such an amazing and insperational person Kandee!! I thank God that he put you on this earth to send these messages and help people be and feel more beautiful and amazing!! I hope God keeps blessing you!! Mary

amiraL@mia said...

u're pure sweetness lovely Kandee!
Thanks God for you... it's great to meet someone like you... you're such an amazing poitive adorable person!!!

Love, Lamia

F A N C Y*pants said...

You are truly beautiful inside & out! I needed to hear everything you just said! Thanks for your words of wisdom! XOXO

livelaugh8 said...

Kandee this is amazing! Thank you so much for this!

God Bless sweetheart!

One Woman said...

Yesssss!!!!!

Daphne said...

Thank you so much Kandee for these words! Exactly what I needed to hear today...

lisa said...

I can be kind of a dork, so excuse this comes across really wierd. I wanted to write to thank you. I'm having a really bad day due to a number of things and I just checked your site and saw your most recent posts. They made me happy. They made me cry. It's all there. :) I love your videos, I love your posts and if I knew you, I am sure I would love you. Please keep posting such wonderful words. Thank you.

moniq said...

Reading this just makes my day. And yes there are people out there that do and say things just to makes us hurt but you made me remind myself of how beautiful of a person i am inside and out no matter what everyone else say.THANKU.You are so full of goodness and kindness that is contagious. We need more people like you on this earth.YOU ARE ONE OF A KIND.thank you for all ur words of wisdom kandee!!
Moni

Staceyy said...

I needed to read this!!! I was just feeling so down about myself, almost crying and saying mean things about myself. So then I came here to see if you had blogged, and you did! and it was this post, so I read through it and was like "I SO NEEDED TO HEAR THIS!!!"

Thank you Kandee, your blogs and such come around when I need to hear these things! So

THANK YOU!!!
Much Love!

PoochesForPeace said...

This makes my day!

Cheryl said...

Hey Kandee! Ur post totally made me feel a little better..my ex bf just said a whole bunch of mean things to me because I am alone in life..and made me feel so sad and depressed..but after reading ur blog i feel a bit better! don't ever stop making them cuz whenever i'm down i always come and read ur blogs and they make me happy again! thanks!

yourloveisasymphony said...

Thanks for the reminder Kandee, I needed it. :)

(user name comming soon) said...

hey kandee, you're like candy...but in human form, you're so sweet!(like a life size gummybear)Whenever I feel blue I love to watch your youtube clips....seriously consider tv, if u had a tv show you'd blow through the roof with high ratings and admirers!

Margie said...

Hi Kandee!! Margie here! Another motivational message that made me get up, and look up to life's path with a clearer view. It's tough to handle other people and to even socialize in my case for being such a timid person, but your advices make anyone, (people who really have the heart) to change their way of being, and making others a better world to live in.
*el de how to be happy

Margie said...

Hi Kandee!! Margie here! Another motivational message that made me get up, and look up to life's path with a clearer view. It's tough to handle other people and to even socialize in my case for being such a timid person, but your advices make anyone, (people who really have the heart) to change their way of being, and making others a better world to live in.

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