Tuesday, May 25, 2010

"you complete me!"

that famous line that Tom Cruise spits out as Jerry Maguire (and I think this was pre-crazy Tom Cruise) to love interest has become a funny saying in between friends.....making the hearts sign and saying "You COMPLETE ME!!!!!"....

People want to feel completed and made to feel whole, like they are fixed, happy, and all better again. Some people spend hours online trying to find that one person that will make their life so much happier and better! Well all the eharmony.com's and match.com's in the world aren't gonna complete us!

Sometimes I've thought that all I needed was to find my soulmate, and my world would be happy, everything would be better. But the truth is, even if they are your soulmate, they are going to let you down, somehow make you mad or hurt your feelings. And WHAM!!! You are so upset, you're thinking you were more "COMPLETED", before you had to deal with a "poop head" like this! ha ha ha

I remember my gramma telling me, "You were just fine before you met them! You were born by yourself, just fine, and you will die by yourself!"...I remember hearing this and thinking, "GOSH!!! THAT IS A HORRIBLE SAYING!" But the truth in it is (and the "nicer, makes more sense version") is this, you have had a life, it may have been heard, but you had happy moments without your soulmate, with friends or family, or even moments where you were happy all by yourself. The "soulmate" didn't all the sudden become the only "being of happiness" in your life. YES, they probably bring tons of happiness to your life, but I guarantee, that without them, you would still have happiness. Not at first if you're all sad, but it will come flooding back.
In the first scenes of the "The Grapes of Wrath", it shows the women watching their men in the dry dusty land working, where the crops used to be. They were watching to see if the men would break, or if they would keep going on. Sometimes that all we need, to see that their hearts were strong to not give up and keep going, and when you see that you think, "Oh, I can do it too! I will make it! I will survive! No matter what is going on, I'm going to make it!"

Today, know that you will make it!
You will be happy!
No matter what is falling apart around what news you've just discovered, you will be more than fine, you will be amazing!
huge love and a cupcake,  from your friend, kandee

MISSION for the day:
1. look back at one thing in your life that was hard and think about how you lived through it

2. think about anyone that you know that has been through something hard, and keep them as your inspiration when you feel like things are too hard, think "what would they do?"

3. Look at yourself in the mirror today and say "you one amazing person and you deserve to be happy, and I will!"

4. in everything today find happiness, in pretty flowers, in smiling at someone, maybe you help someone that can't open a door, like a little old lady or a mom with a stroller, maybe you just tell a friend or your mom, just how much they mean to you, or even just tell someone they have a nice smile!

25 comments:

x.Tayy.x said...

Kandee, you should write a book on how to be happy, and how to get through tough times in life. I bet it would be an amazing book!

Sarah said...

Oh, Kandee! Every word is true - we make our own happiness and shape our own lives.
My daughter is autistic. Every day is beautiful, heartbreaking, funny and sad all rolled in to one.

I decide how I feel today, how I treat others, how I behave so that my kids can see that it's ok to keep going. Things aren't easy all the time ( or ever ) but all you have to do is keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep smiling.

Thank you for being one of the people who helps me keep going!
<3

Emily80 said...

So great!! Now when will young ladies believe it, Ha ha!!

Elphiero said...

Wow, Kandee. This is beautiful I've been struggling with the love and soulmate thing lately. I got broken up with yesterday and this really helped me a lot. You're amazing. Thank you so much.

sandragwilliams said...

You know what my mom told me and it works: don't look for just a "soulmate" but look for someone who is "kind" and really treats you with respect. And you know, I'm not the prettiest of the bunch but I've been mightly lucky. Sometimes what were lookng for: like "chemistry" just doesn't last and take you through the rough times...but kindness and respect has always worked for me...

Luis Moragas Batista said...

You word let me soo sad. Im pas in hard moment and these word bites my heard.
Best wishes from Barcelona (Spain).

jennifer ingrid said...

Thank you Kandee for being such an inspiration and such an amazing person. :)

Yvaine said...

Dear Kandee, you are a true inspiration !!! What you describe is what I try to do everyday (finding small pleasures) but it was great hearing it from someone else too. This period I'm feeling really lonely, but after this I'm getting my groove back !!! Kisses from Greece!

shaina said...

I needed this, thank you for blogging this. Needed to hear some inspiring words from someone. You made a difference today ....

Belány said...

thanks so much for this amazing post, Kandee! I can totally relate to this feeling and I always try to tell myself (and others) that you always have to be strong and know that you can always have yourself to count on, even if that special person or soulmate steps out of your life! I agree with what you've said! Just know that you're a special person and you can deal with everything that comes your way.

pamela said...

Taht's what we always have to be ready for... let go... that's the only way we can be truly happy in this world and i totally agree with you...Live is great with its ups and downs... but you realize it just when you got over hard things and let go.

ruby360 said...

u r that one magical bird which wud make people smile where ever it wud fly :) GOD bless u kandee lov u :) ( n 4 the record i am not an old lady heheheheh :P)

Kat said...

Thanks Kandee, your positive outlook on life is so inspirational. I hope your leg is getting better! Luv Kat xx

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badkitten said...

so true... so true.
I love you Kandee! Reading your Blog gives me motivation for the new day! loads of kisses!!!

Nora said...

Thank you! You're such a beautiful person inside and out! Today was a very hard day, but we have to think positively and about those less fortunate!

CuriousChristina said...

Kandee, you always know exactly how to brighten my day and put a smile on my face, thank you for making me, and many others feel amazing. You're my role model <3

Love Always, Christina <3

K said...

i soooo needed to hear that today, thanks lady
xoxo
Kellyann

Kayla said...

This reminds me so much of my friend, who is going through this exact same thing, trying to get over a significant other. I'll spread your message over to her, since I was never able to put what I wanted to say in my head out vocally.
Thanks Kandee :D

Anna said...

How is that possible, that just after my soulmate let me down You post this!?!?! Thank You so much!

Suki said...

kandee you are my inspiration, and whenever i am down you always have something to make me smile again! I told a boy I liked him yesterday but he doesn't feel the same, but I am not going to let myself be sad, because I took the chance...and I'll find someone more amazing than him! xxx

laxupi69 said...

i dont know if you will read this massage, i hope you do!! i just want you to know that i really think you are amazing!!!you are such a fighter!! and above all, you are an ARTIST!!!

lots of kisses and love from valencia, spain!!=)

laxupi69 said...

i dont know if you will read this massage, i hope you do!! i just want you to know that i really think you are amazing!!!you are such a fighter!! and above all, you are an ARTIST!!!

lots of kisses and love from valencia, spain!!=)

Navibug said...

...thank-you :)

Sarah said...

I have always been a proponent of being happy on your own before you can be happy with someone else! We all go through things but we come out better on the other side!! Thanks for posting this, you always make for a good day!

Zoha said...

Hey precious Kandee! I've got something very important to tell you. I'm so happy to know you and be able to read your sweet words of inspiration. Honey, you should know there are lots of people whose lives you just changed, you made them happy, you made them change, and of course there are rewards for things you've done.

Keep doing this Kandee, if you don't know it yet, I'm telling you PEOPLE NEED SOMEONE LIKE YOU! They need help. So keep doing this, and of course us Kandee-fans will help people know you better. I'm from Iran, and I promise I will get Iranian people to know you, 'cause you're such a big inspiration!

And I also want you to know that YOU WON! You definitely did! CONGRATULATIONS!

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