(Before I hurt my leg, when things upset me, I would go for a run and cry, I would run as fast and hard as I could, with tears running down my face, in the middle of nowhere, so no one would see me!)
"why do bad things happen to good people?"...i know you've heard this come hurling out of people's mouths.
I had someone comment to me, "why do things keep going wrong in your life?". I don't look at it that way, I look at it like, THIS IS LIFE! STUFF HAPPENS, GOES WRONG, HURTS US, WE LOSE THINGS....PEOPLE, OUR HEARTS GET BROKEN.
But you know what...we always go on. Our hearts heal (eventually), our broken spirit can be healed, we grow back stronger.
Just like when you work out and your muscles are sore, you've torn them, them rebuild, STRONGER & MORE BEAUTIFUL than before. That is how our lives are, our hearts break or spirit gets torn into sadness or depression, but when we heal, we ARE ALWAYS STRONGER & MORE BEAUTIFUL!
It's funny because I make videos about how to put make-up on to feel more confident and beautiful, but what I really care about is making beautiful hearts!
I had a really disappointing thing happen a couple weeks ago, I was crying, sad, depressed, and a little angry inside. (ALL things I DO NOT like feeling!) After I had a tear stained, swollen-eyed face, I heard something! I think it was Joel Osteen, and he said, "don't worry about anything that happens or doesn't happen, God knows why it didn't work out, he was most likely protecting you from something"..And maybe whatever you went though is the very something that would make you and change you into something and someone stronger and more amazing!
I was putting lotion on my legs the other day after I got out of the shower, and I was looking down at both of my legs. My left leg has no scars and my right leg looks like JAWS attacked my leg (with the scar from my leg accident), but the funny part is, I have to do so many exercises with it at Physical Therapy, that my right leg (my hurt one), has more muscle definition than my good leg! Physical Therapy hurts, sometimes I feel like I can't do the things they have me do, my muscles and leg hurt and burn, when the scrub and break the scar tissue down, I want to yell in pain. But you know what, when they break down the tissue it gets softer, it heals, it because less hardened and more beautiful. That's what happens in our lives, when we go through things that hurt (a break up, the loss of someone, depression, something mean someone says or does to hurt us, losing a job or opportunity, just hurting), the process we go through to heal, makes us STRONGER, our hearts softer, we are less hardened and MORE BEAUTIFUL!
The saying that I always say about a broken mirror reflecting more light is true...some people that have shattered mirrors, sit in the middle of all the broken pieces of mirror, they sit and cry and bleed from the broken pieces, and others like us, pick up all the broken pieces glue them back together carefully, and we are left more sparkly, more reflective, shining brighter than we did before!
Now when things go wrong, something disappoints me, I think, "NO! This is not bad! This is an opportunity for me to be strong, develop more endurance, more determination, and be truly stronger when I'm done with all this!" God knew this would happen, and I know he's protecting me from something, or getting this out of the way, because something better is coming along!
Today when things go wrong, you miss your flight, your stuck in traffic, you don't get accepted for something, a boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you or has hurt you, you lose your job...SAY, "This is happening for a reason, I may not see it now, or know why, but there is a reason for this, and I KNOW this is happening for a purpose!"
huge love, from your fellow shattered mirror, that's shining brighter, friend, kandee
When I read about the breaking down of the scar tissue, I totally identified with you. They were doing that to my inner left elbow at PT too and I was nearly in tears. I thought for sure it was going to hurt like that again and again and it just kept feeling less painful each time I went back so it must have worked. That alone is proof positive that we, as humans, have the ability to habituate and become immune to pain and the pain may wear us down at first but it will lead to strength and happiness! You're such a strong woman and you're just getting stronger, Kandee. :)
beautiful and inspirational words*
That is amazing! Thank you so much. I need to hear this, just as so many others. :-)
I agree. We always come back stronger. Peace and Love sent to ya girl~
I love your blog, you're so inspiring and everything, my life has been full of everything bad, but you really make me feel better about all those things, so thank you :)
Kandee you have no idea how strong you are.. It is inspiring to see how you manage to just keep running and running no matter what happened in your life and no matter what difficulties you are struggling with recently. Other people would have given up but you NEVER give up! You keep on blogging everyday, making videos for us, encouraging so many people around the world, you take care of your gorgeous kids, you work hard everyday doing make up and GLAMINARS...
That is why you are a role model to all of us! You are simply amazing and you can really be proud of yourself!!
Lots of love,
I know Kandee. I wonder why are things always wrong. I see people with what I would call an easy life and ask why this life. Your sister had a great post on this topic, but I think for those of us who have a speical calling or walk is never easy. Be encouraged my friend. Sending lots of love your way.
we grow back stronger like a trimmed plant!
Thanks Kandee, that really helped me today. I hope you have a wonderful week.
Much Love x
You could not have said this any better. Much love to you Kandee!
You are beautiful inside and out!
"I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me!"
kandee, i couldn't agree more with you, optimism is key, with out it, you have nothing, why stop and look at all the misery in your life? that will not help anyone or anything. Its unfortunate that bad keeps finding you, but hey, that is life. life isn't always clean crisp and perfect, its a rocky road, and as long as you take the trip with a smile on your face, and a happy thought in your heart, your golden baby girl
Kandee, you have no idea how inspirational you are. I was literally on the verge of tears. I just found out I didn't get the job that I thought was "perfect" for me and on top of it, I'm failing a summer school class and really have to get it together. My heart has been weighed down since yesterday and getting the message about the job, really had me in the dumps. And of course I was thinking the worst of things and questioning why all these bad things have been happening, when I came across this post.
THANK YOU so much for these inspirational words. I feel now that I can move forward with my day and more importantly, with my life. I can keep my chin up and focus on how things DO happen for a reason and it's for my benefit only.
You are an amazing person and so encouraging! God definitely placed this article before me for a reason. Please continue to be a beautiful inspiration for all of us!
I love u. U r so amazing and an inspiration for me to keep on going when things look tough...u r so so so beautiful inside and outside...
Kandee you are a blessing to each and everyone of us! And like you said everything happens for a reason! I admit I feel like a shatterd mirror but I never thought of myself shining brighter. Thankyou for making my heart beautiful. Your words lift my soul up and make me believe that I can accomplish my dreams. I know I am young and may seem naive aboout these such of things. But I want to thank you from the top and bottom of my heart! :) Huge love to you and your family.
Keep up the good work Kendee. Love your blog and spirit. Kisses from Iceland!
Great post kandee! I ♥ they way you compared our torn lives with breaking down the muscle in order to build it up. That's what God does sometimes. He lets things come on our lives to make us stronger! Without the trials in my life I would not be the strong woman I am today.
I try to think the same, like things happen for a reason, and that bad things always bring good things along with them. that God sent me something bad beacuse something good is coming later.. but it's not always like this. Maybe my heart is broken inside sooo bad that cannot heal anymore :( I'm afraid of losing my mom to cancer, she's having her second fight and it's beggining to spred in her body :( after 8 years :| Most of the night I cry myself out, cry until I sleep, and the next morning I wake up all swallon and need to cry again. I try to convince myself I have to be brave and strong, but I just can't.. this cannot bring anything good later.. :( i just feel that.
Thanks for giving some hope, Kandee
You always have such amazing words to speak Kandee. Keep it up! Keep on speaking words of wisdom and life to us your followers but most importantly keep on speaking words of life and wisdom to yourself, because I know sometimes it can be difficult. Love, Wendy.
you know i am a survivor of abuse and one thing i have learned in my life is that the horror that i have went thru just makes me who i am and a better person. i know i can go thru anything and those who are in need i can help them. i always try to take the negative and make something positive about it.
What a wonderful post! You are an amazing woman with such a wonderful and real perspective on life. Thanks always for sharing!
Kandee you are soo sensible like me. Perhaps because im ascendent Cancer like you horoscop. ¿Why happen bad things to the good people? The life becomes bad.
A big kiss and Good bles you. I read your post and make me cry.
WOW= Words of Wisdom from a very great lady! Much love and respect to you, Kandee!
hi kandee your advice could not come in better time right no wi dont understand why certain ppl i thought were good ppl well i knew how they were but still looked passed it i was their for them and now its like i dont exist to them all this time and a few yrs ago they always made it seem like i was the one with the problem i dont know how someone can just shut someone out for no reason no acknowledgement nothing but then i see a photo of them and really i can feel their not as happy as they seem to want others to think i dont wish bad on anyone but i dont understand why they only treat me like crap its hard to deal with it but rigt now change is coming so i know and think god is doing this for a reason:)
I don't know if you ever read the comments we leave but in case you do I wanted to say thank you. I just found out lsat night one of my dear friends is dying of cancer, at 25 years old. I feel like it is so comepletely unfair and I don't understand it. But I do know God has a purpose. To be honest it doesnt make the news any easier to swallow but I do know it.
I follow your blog so long, and first I just loved your make up advices but since in my life so many things changed I really appreciate every single of your inspiring words! love you so much for your amazing personality! thanks so much!
best wishes from Austria
Thank you so much for your words. This weekend my car was stolen and my family has had it for over 15 years. Its been having problems for the past few years but I still loved it. I gave it a name and everything. I've been told by everyone this week that I need to let it go and that as I get older things like this will matter less and less. I'd like to think my car was taken suddenly to teach me a lesson not to hold onto things. It still hurts when people ask if I've heard any news but like you've said, God gives us the things he knows we can handle.
JESUS ALWAYS has a bigger plan. That's why we are to "trust Him and lean not into our own understanding." Trusting Him in all things tell Him that we are laying our burdens at His feet. And will brings blessings as we give Him the room in your hearts to MOVE in our life. =)
(Just be careful with 'pastors' like Joel. His teaching are not all Biblical and he teaches what is called 'prosperity teachings'... dead giveaway of a false teacher!)
The Bible has all you need. =)
I swear sometimes I think you're psychic. You always seem to address something I'm dealing with just when I need that pick me up. Thank you as always.
Great article! Bad things do happen to everyone but especially to good people but just as those things happen good things happen as well. I completely agree that when "bad" things or maybe things you might not understand why they are happening occur in the future you always realize it was for the best. It is so liberating to run and let yourself feel vulnerable. Kandee I dont know exactly what you went through or anyone else that is going through hardship but be strong it isnt easy but at the end of the day know that good does come to all of those who deserve it.
Much Love to everyone
I love your broken mirror theory...so great...the more cracks the cooler the shine...
You're a true inspiration and a life saver..!
LOVE YOU KANDEE...!
Love you so so much..!
Thank you very much kandee, this is what I needed. I sometimes feel that bad things keep happening in my life but maybe that's for a reason. Each and everytime I do seem to get stronger, and learn to deal a little better. I have learned to appreciate the things that I do have, like my family. In the end thats all thats important.
I just want to share with you Ellie's life. Talking when bad things happen to good people.
God Bless you!
It's incredible the talent that you've to unite all the feelings of everybody in your words. It doesn’t matter where we come from or what language we speak because all the feelings that you explain happen to everybody around the world.
Thanks Kandee for your words, with them you make me feel very special.
Thank you! Thank you!
thanks Kandee... I read Joel Oesteen and I love what he says... I too believe that things happen for a reason of something better happening to us... take care and i pray that you leg gets better soon... :) love, your fan, Gabriela
i heard a story from a pastor. he said a friend of his is a barber off of one of the navy bases. He said that the man came in to get his hair cut and the conversation led to the man sitting in the chair to talk about why he doesn't believe in God. His said "I dont believe in God because, if there really was a God then there wouldnt be so many bad people doing bad things to good people." The barber at that moment didnt know exactly what to say but then a couple minutes later a man walked by the window of the barber shop. This man had hair halfway down his back and his beard to the middle of his chest and a mustache to match. The barber then said "I dont believe in barbers." then the man sitting the chair looked at him confused. "If barbers existed then people like that wouldnt be walking around."
i thought that was such an amazing story.
I like running like that too- out in the middle of nowhere, where no one can see you crying, and you can time your sobs with your steps. There's a release that comes with pushing your body to its physical limits.
And like they always say, "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger."
God tears some things down so he can build them up more beautiful than ever.
I needed this. Thank you.
My motto since I was 8 years old and I am now 48 is "Everything happens for a reason, you may never know the reason but their is one."
Sometimes I have a hard time believing this especially now when I am going through so much. But I keep saying it over and over and over to myself.
I wish I had your positive attitude. I just read a great sermon on line regarding the trials of job and it helped me so much.
I agree and it's hard sometimes to look on the bright side but if we're still here after all the "bad things" are gone, it means we are stronger than we thought. I'll share another quote with you.
"Brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. They are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Brick walls are there to keep out the people who don't want it badly enough. They're there to keep out the OTHER people." - Randy Pausch
Don't know if you know of Randy Pausch but I always watch his Last Lecture speech when I feel like I can't go on. I recommend it. He was a truly inspirational and positive person. <3
Thank you kandee for all that you wrote..I myself am feeling really sad but i know,some people achieve some things faster than others and with time,i know i will too. I just don't know why these people likes to put it in your face kind of thing. I don't show it but i am hurt and discourage. Thank you for your encouragement though it's general but it's helpin. Thank you so much. :,)
You are so sweet and so inspiring! Thank you for helping us lift our heads up and feel good!!! THANK YOU KANDEE!!
Your words help me terribly, your amazing, I admire your optimism!
Thank you for those words.
Ya know? Tomorrow it's my birthday, but i feel sad. :(
I'm still in love with a guy, who said "no" to my feelings for him, twice, cause he was in love with someone else.
And now he said that "he's free", but still said "no" to me.
I hate him, but love him at the same time. What should i do?
Can someone please tell me?
I just found your vlogs on Youtube and I think you are awesome. I am amazed at your technique, talent, and skills. I have always been interested in make-up and have thought about becoming a make-up artist. I am a little upset that I'm going to miss your make-up artist school this weekend, I hope you will be able to bring it to Sacramento, CA soon.
I know you already did a vlog about make-up kit essentials, but since I am new to the game and I need to build a make-up kit, I was wondering if you knew of a way it could be done for an artist on a majorly tight budget. If you had some basics that any beginner could afford.
Also, don't worry about the words other people say to you, God always has a greater plan in store for you. When the storms come, that is the time to praise Him even more because a big blessing is right around the corner. Stay blessed and beautiful.
Also I was wondering if you'd be willing to be a guest blogger on my blog, I just started it and I would be honored if you would leave a comment or even allow some of your tutorial videos to be posted. Here is my blog address:
I'd be honored if you would check it out and let me know what you think.
Have a wonderful day and stay blessed because you are always blessing the lives of other people everyday!
With Love Always,
I feel like we came for make-up advice and stuck around for your motivational speaking. You seem to say the things we all are thinking or need someone to say to us. Even the girls who are quite content with their lives appreciate your constant kindness. You truly are amazing :)
A much needed lift, to a not so hot of a day. God is Amazing... thanks for the reminder, a refocus is needed sometimes :)
wow! this was really inspiring! :) i always love reading your blog because you always see the positive in every situation. it helps me tackle my day with a smile on my face. so from the bottom of my heart THANK YOU KANDEE!
Those who created the pain of yesterday do not control the pleasures of tomorrow....forgive them, bless them and walk away....there is nothing you can do to those who hate you without cause and rise up against you that in Gods judgements they have not already done worse to themselves....they just don't know it yet....every dog has its day so to speak......You are more BEAUTIFUL than You know Love you lots...GOD BLESS
Thank you so much for this. I've been having problems, and you're making it that much easier to get through them.
Love and hugs.
You are such a strong person! Don't ever let go of your strentgh and when you feel like you can't move on as you did a few weeks ago read some of your blogs =). You are a ture inspiration to us all. I hope for blessings and more blessing
She speaks the truth guys!! A year ago I was jobless, money less and totally hopeless...I had no idea what I was going to do or how I was ever going to make things work for my self and my three year old... EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Now I can look back on the past two years and I know for a fact I am stronger, smarter, healthier and much happier person...god closed doors and opened new, and more amazing ones for me, and I am so thankful!
I also love Joel Osteen and the way he puts things into perspective for me... Im always inspired by him...as well as you Kandee!! Thanks again!!!!
kandee you always seem to make a bad day good with your words! you'v helped me thru so much and u dont even realise! just by u being u, there are sooo many people feeling alot better , happier and more confident in themselves. you are such an inspiration and altho u have had a hard life, i wud luv to be like u and have your amazing view on life! your a true angel kandee =D
lots of love,
Aine (from all the way in Ireland!)
Hey kandee!! you are such and inspiration. I absolutely luv all your make-up tips, and I try to read your blog almost everyday, reading it lifts my spirit so much and it makes me feel so happy and special!! you have no idea how much you have helped me!! Keep on going!!
XOXO from Costa Rica!!
I agree with you 100%. when I was younger I couldn't really grasp why things happened, but as I got older and experienced life, I understand that life is life and that you learn from things and life goes on.
i really wish your my mom.thats what i really need rite now.ur the best kandee!
Kandee you just keep getting better and better at this SOUL Fixing for us! You not only teach us how to be Beautiful on the Outside' but on the Inside where it really counts! I love your post, and I repost somethings as NOTEs on my FB! I hope you dont mind! I specially love this one..because Times are tough right now for alot of people and you are correct' each Lesson learned' each hardship' makes us stronger and better people. Thank You for Being YOU Kandee!
I realized some time ago that bad things (that I cannot explain) happen for a (good) reason. I don't know what to call it that guides us, God or whatever, but this fate has its ways and always works for the best. For every time I feel something unfairly sad has happened to me, it turns out sooner or later that it prevented me from something much worse.
I had a friend who lived really far from her family, and saw them only like twice a year. She was gonna go on holiday with her dad and sisters but her boss wouldn't let her. She was so upset and depressed over it for a long time. And then she heard. Her family had a terrible car accident and though no one was really hurt, the place where she would have sat the car broke into shreds...
You are so right... I think I had to go through 2 cancers, because the first one didn't make me change enough to be a better person! The second one did the job pretty well though ;-) (well, I hope! ahaha)
And the super bonus is: I *do* look more beautiful than before! Inside, and even outside.
I feel so blessed to have been allowed to live a little more... when it seemed so normal before!
Thank you Kandee for being part of my healing process! Much love from France ^_^.
My pastor actually spoke on this topic this past weekend. check it out~ i think u'll really be inspired by where Jesus is in all this.
here's the website
Thank you soooo much Kandee! I love reading your blogs and watching your videos. When I first stumbled across you videos on youtube I thought you were so happy and bubbly. Then I came to your blog and I read about your struggles. I was amazed at how even though after everything you've been through you still have a positive look on life. Your blog posts and videos inspire me to take a positive view even when times get tough. THANK YOU!!!
Bad things in our life occur because God wants to test us. Everyone goes through a hard period of time lives, and if one is patient then there is definately a greater reward in return. Have you noticed that there's always a few people who tend to face a lot more difficulty in life than compared to others, this is because God places harder and more difficult challenges on those who are patient. There is definately a reward. This is Sufi was of thinking and taking life.
Kandee, I truly admire you, the way you express your thoughts and emotions regarding life, lives, and if one is patient then there ilives, and if one is patient then there is definately a greater reward in return. Have you noticed that there's always a few people who tend to face a lot more difficulty in life than compared to others, this is because God places harder and more difficult challenges on those who are patient. There is definately a reward. This is Sufi was of thinking and taking life.
Kandee, I truly admire you, the way you express your thoughts and emotions regarding life, and no less than a saint.patient.
Kandee, I truly admire you, the way you express your thoughts and emotions regarding life, ante no less than a saint. Behind all these struggles there is truly a reward. no less than a saint. Behind all these struggles there is truly a reward. their
Well it's hard to me to believe but i will believe you :) if something better will come along i will be thinking of you and "yay! she was right"
Oops. I was writing from my phone. I think I copied and pasted wayy too many times.. What I said doesn't even make sense anymore.
I just got home right now after a tough day at work... I just couldn't wait for it to end! I needed to get it all off my chest but reading this is helping me lift myself out of that funk. Thanks for sharing this and reminding me that I can choose to either have a pity party and get nowhere or turn it around for the better to pick myself up and keep moving. I think sometimes we just need a reminder that we have that power. You're doing a great job staying positive and that can only bring more good things back.
Thanks for this post! Your optimism is really inspiring and encouraging, and I'm really glad I read this because it's a message I really needed to hear right now. I would hate to come out of a period of trial hardened and bitter; it's better to look at sad/disappointing hurts and see them as opportunities to grow and become more of who we are supposed to be. So, thanks for writing!
Hey Kandee, I know that you get this all the time, but your words have touched my heart, your attitude in life is the most beautiful thing ever, and what you're doing here is amazing! Writing with all your heart for us! It's just beautiful! I wish you the best in your life always!! Lots of love from Venezuela :)
Thank you. I don't ever "blog" but after reading this.. WOW. You are pure inspiration. Thank you.
Wow, you are such an inspiration and I needed to hear this. I haven't been in a relationship in 4 years and just started to see someone until yesterday. I'm soooo bummed. I will keep your words in my mind though, and I know it will be easier.
Thank you so much Kandee. <3
Thank you for your love and inspiration. Your message inspired me to post an event on facebook regarding a prayer for the Gulf of Mexico. Please take the time to visit my FB page. I think you could motivate more peeps to make this happen. All beings in The Gulf need us right now.
Love to you!
I wish these all could be true :).
I love u Kandee! U give me so inspiration and u speak the language of heart so clearly. God bless You and Thank You soo much for being there for all of us. I really really Love U soooooo Much. Hugs!
I Love u Kandee! U r the best and u give me soo much inspiration whenever i feel sad. U really do and I am so thankful to you. Whenever i feel sad, i read ur blog and go back to the fun person I am. Thank U sooo much and God Bless you! :* hugs
I've been there with a broken arm...and eventually the tissue does repair. And as far as the color of the scar as in life turn the scar into something interesting. You're an artist. Perhaps using fake tatoo or henna on or around that scar and make art. And then when people tell you how cool the design on your leg looks you can give them an inspiring story. Look at what you do have and not at what you don't want.
I just joined your blog after watching almost all your you tube videos! Your blog just helped me get a message from God thank you for opening your heart to Him and sharing His love. Much love from one Candy to another =)
This is the best post Kandeee. You are totally right! I have also been learning this along the way. It's a hard lesson to learn and hard to follow through on, but if it weren't hard it wouldn't be worth it right? I am totally re-posting this on my blog. Thank you!
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I read your blog & watche your utube videos since last Sept. I went through depression after my last bf cheated on me. I'm now in recovery for co-dependency, people pleasing, & trust issues. I've grown a lot after that. I love myself through God...on the 23rd is my B-day. I'm turning 26! I want to love & be love by a man that loves God and who will appreciate me...I'm scare sometimes of the future. But then I think about how God has protected me and provide all my needs.He gives me the courage to go on and the hope that everything is going to be OK.
Question: Where did you buy your headphones????? They're so kool & pinkish. I started running... Whn u get a chance, pls let me know. I said happy b-day on the utube video. But happy b-day again & thanks for being the woman who you are.
God bless you.
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