Wednesday, September 21, 2011
How to deal with sadness
People everyday are going about their business with so much sadness, depression, feelings of being alone, overwhelmed or secretly being abused. Sometimes the world feels like it's too painful.
So many times throughout my life people have said, "oh but you always seem so happy" or , "I thought your life seems so perfect" or "I wish I had your life"...but if they really had my life they may not want it. I have been through many painful things in my life, and I know people have been through much worse things than me...
Many nights, tears just want to fall from my eyes...from the hurt, the imperfections in my life, the overwhelming amount of work it takes to try to support your kids on your own, the feeling of life being to heavy and just things that I am concerned about my family.
“Tears are the only cure for weeping,” George MacDonald, a Scottish preacher said.
My life is not perfect. Yes, I have happy moments and yes I have sad ones. And in this life, we have to keeping jumping the hurdles of sadness, because there will be more. Just like whenever I am sick and I think, "I don't ever want to be sick again!" I know I will, germs and viruses aren't going anywhere, so I am sure, eventually I will get sick again. Same thing with sadness, every time I've been sad or had my heart broken I think, "I don't ever want to feel this way again!" And sure enough, in this life, things will make us sad, people will break our hearts.
But the good news is..that when things start feeling too heavy, too painful, too much to bear...
Know that you are a "problem hurdler"...you can get over each painful situation, you can get over any heartbreak. Everyone survives a break-up, divorce, hurtful situation, bout of sadness.
Do not give up. Do not give in. Happy little moments are waiting to be lived. Rejoice in the tiny sparkles of life. I get excited about things easily, whether it's meeting a celebrity or meeting someone that just watches me on youtube- I actually get more excited for meeting "non-celebrities" (ha ha)...it's the excitement you have for life that will make your life seem happy. If you try to act cool all the time, that's just how your life will start to feel...cold.
Act silly. Be happy. Get excited about things....
and it was worth getting excited over. Before this sunset I wanted to cry from feelings of being so beyond overwhelmed...it doesn't matter that I went to the Emmy Awards..that doesn't make someone's life happy...it just makes a few hours a little fancy.
When I feel like my heart is too sensitive for this world. I realize I don't need to fill my head with the latest drama that the news is stirring up.
When I feel like my heart is so heavy it can't be lifted...I have to lift my arms to the heavens.
The only answer I have that works for me is to pray.
The only thing I can do is think about the good things in my life. The things to be thankful for.
I have food to eat. Water to drink. I have a comfy place to sleep. And many people in this world don't have those things.
No matter how hard life may get...remember to just get ready for the next hurdle to jump over. Life is a series of hurdles (problem, sadness, depression, loneliness hurdles)...but we just need to keep jumping over them, smiling and laughing in between.
Life is a like an obstacle course- think of it as an adventure that you just have to keep going through, climbing over, sliding down, climbing up, and over every obstacle that comes in front of you. It doesn't do you any good to sit and cry about how hard the rope is to climb....just keep climbing out!
And if you do need a break to cry for a moment....I pray that it washes away all the "sadness-dust" that was collecting on your heart.
No need to do any heavy emotional lifting....God is stronger and said that's what He's there for...to lift the things that are too heavy for us.
You are not alone...I'm in the obstacle course with you! YOU CAN DO IT! We can do it! The most important beauty "tool" you have...is a heart that can share love and encouragement with others.
it is almost 3 in the morning...and I stayed up to write this for you...you know who you are, that needed to hear this...and if someone's reading this that doesn't need this...please just remember this in your heart for a time when you will....
I love you all, more than you will ever know...each one of you is amazing and precious and the world needs what you have to say, think, and your smile...
love your kandee